Teens are less likely to reject rules when they understand the rationale behind them. This is particularly true if they understand the rule or boundary is in place to keep them safe or to fit in with acceptable behaviors.
Teens are more likely to tell parents what is really going on in their lives when they feel like they may have the opportunity to negotiate – or at least have their concerns heard. If they don’t think they have a chance of being listened to, they will stop talking.
They will be more likely to share if they learn that when they make reasonable requests – ones they can back up with demonstrated responsibility – parents will give them their earned privileges. Young people gain the motivation to do the right thing when they learn that adults respond to their concerns and notice their responsible actions.